Negotiate 1-2-3

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Learning Objectives Est. time: 20 min.

  • Understanding the economic and psychological dimensions of take-it-or-leave-it offers
  • Recognizing the pros and cons of issuing an ultimatum
  • Appreciating the nuances of bargaining power even in seemingly simple situations

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Negotiations sometimes reach a point where one party issues a take-it-or-leave-it ultimatum. The other party then has to decide whether to accept the proposed terms, or to call the bluff of the person who made that demand. Ultimatums are critical moments where the outcome of the process can teeter between deal or deadlock.

A dollar bill being cut into two pieces.
In the Ultimatum Game, you'll have to decide whether to accept proposed terms or call someone's bluff.

Behavioral psychologists have gleaned important insights into the dynamics of such situations by studying how subjects complete a short exercise called the Ultimatum Game. Later in this module you'll see a summary of key findings, but first you'll have the chance to do the exercise yourself. Your responses will not be saved after you leave this site, so please be sure you have 20 minutes to complete this whole module. Otherwise, come back when you have enough time.

The Ultimatum Game

This short exercise has no right or wrong answer, but it does illustrate important negotiation concepts. The exercise here has two different versions. In order to make this random, please start with a version according to your date of birth. If you were born in an even-numbered year (such as 1954 or 1998), choose the Allocator Version. If you were born in an odd-numbered year (such as 1983 or 1997), choose the Recipient Version. After you have completed your assigned version, we encourage you to try the other one.

Research Findings

Behavioral economists, psychologists, and social scientists have long studied different versions of the game you just played. Their fascination lies in the fact that most people disregard its basic logic. In a narrow sense, people are irrational, though many of us would agree with their decision-making.

Here’s the strict logic:

1. The person in the Allocator role should desire to maximize their payoff.

2. To achieve that goal, the Allocator needs to win the Recipient’s approval of the proposed split. (Otherwise both parties get nothing).

3. It should be easy to win the Recipient’s approval since it would be "irrational" to refuse any positive number (as one dollar—or even a single penny—is worth more than nothing.

In practice, however, very few Recipients are willing to accept a minimal amount. Typically they demand between 25 and 30 percent of the stakes. There’s variation on both side of that median. Some Recipients would be willing to live with much less; a few others demand an even 50/50 split.

The reality is that most people care about more than just money. They want to be treated fairly. If a large pie is being divided, they don’t want to be stuck with a few crumbs. They reject one-sided deals out of pride and self-respect.

Then there’s the vengeance factor. The person who insists on receiving $30 and thus rejects an offer of $20 loses that money, of course, but has pleasure of inflicting an even greater loss on the Allocator who proposed that split.

Note that we started this analysis from the Recipient’s point of view. That’s partly because the Recipient has a choice to make. But it’s also because the Allocator’s own decision should be informed by their assessment of what a Recipient is likely to do. It’s possible, of course, that some Allocators may be similarly concerned with fairness and not want to think of themselves as greedy. As a result, they may give a quarter, a third, or even half of the amount to the other side.

Even Allocators who are solely concerned with maximizing their own financial payoff, but should take into account the thinking of their counterpart. Such Allocators may be motivated to offer more than a minimal amount—not out of generosity—but simply to increase the odds of having their offer accepted. This involves weighing tradeoffs:

The challenge for the self-motivated Allocators is putting themselves in the shoes of Recipients who may think differently than they themselves do. Moreover, not all Recipients think the same way. A split that would be accepted by one person could be rejected by someone else. Allocators willing to gamble might make an aggressive demand in hopes of a big payoff. On the other hand, an Allocator facing a lot of overdue bills may have to be more cautious to reduce the risk of ending up empty-handed.

Now let’s bounce back to the Recipient’s point of view for just a moment. In addition to making a judgment about fairness, they must likewise think strategically by putting themselves in the Allocator’s shoes. Even if Recipients who are only concerned with maximizing their own financial payoff should access how much—if at all—the Allocator cares about fairness. The more likely it is that the Allocator will be fair to some degree, the more the Recipient can safely demand.

That’s especially true given the rules that applied in the version of the game you were playing. Recall that the Recipient would simply get the minimum that they stipulated, even if the Allocator in that particular round actually offered more. If instead, the rules said that the Recipient would get whatever the Allocator offered, then the Recipient would have nothing to lose by lowering their minimum. In the worst case, they would get their minimum amount, and often they would get a bonus. Of course, in anticipation of that strategy, Allocators might lower their offers. Nevertheless, the rules here were designed to prompt you to think harder about the rewards and risks of making more aggressive bids.

Thousands of articles have been written about the Ultimatum game over the years. There’s no need to distill all that research here, but it’s worth noting the implications of several different kinds of experiments that have been run.

Such findings, taken as whole, have implications for all types of negotiations. First, they confirm that fairness is a concern of many negotiators, though people vary widely with respect to what they think is fair. Second, perceptions determine feelings about fairness more than reality. Your counterpart may reject a reasonable offer, erroneously believing that you could provide much more, even though that’s not the case. Third, you need to think about fairness strategically when preparing for and conducting a negotiation. The operative question isn’t how others should react to your offers; rather, it’s how they likely will.

Two final notes. The research briefly summarized here typically focuses on the quantitative side of ultimatums (how much is offered or demanded). But how an ultimatum is delivered surely matters, as well. A take-it-or-leave-it number that is expressed as a challenge invites rejection. One that explains why this is the best that you can do has a better chance of acceptance.

Then there is the matter of responding to ultimatums. Harvard Business School Professor Deepak Malhotra offers some surprising, but practical advice in his book, Negotiating the Impossible. "Ignore ultimatums," he says. "The more attention you give them, the harder it will be for the other side to back down if the situation changes."

When someone says "absolutely not" or "it’s against company policy," the natural impulse may be to ask why or for an exception—or to challenge the assertion itself. But it's often smarter to let the remark pass without comment. Your counterpart may have spoken in haste or may be bluffing. Given time, they may soften their position—provided you haven't reinforced it. The worst thing to do is to rise to the bait. Don't ask if they really mean what they said. If people paint themseves into a corner, why hand them another bucket?


As you now can see, there is no right answer in the Ultimatum game. If you are the Allocator, a division that you propose may be accepted by many people but rejected by others. Likewise, if you are the Recipient, some Allocators may be willing to meet your minimum threshold while others will not. As former FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss says, “If you approach a negotiation thinking that the other guy thinks like you, youre wrong. That’s not empathy; that’s projection.”

Whatever the situation is, there are helpful ways to analyze your options and make an informed decision.

  • Think interactively: what is your counterpart likely to decide?
  • Do not assume that your counterpart thinks the way that you do. Instead, consider both best- and worst-case scenarios.
  • Fairness matters to many people, though not everyone. Even those who care about fairness have different perceptions about what is just.
  • Although no counteroffers are possible in this game, the fact that the Recipient can veto a deal gives them a measure of power.
  • In setting your figure, you must balance reward and risk. On the one hand, the more you ask for, the greater your potential gain. On the other hand, the more you ask for, the more likely you are to get nothing.

For more on this topic, explore the Brinksmanship module in this unit.


Deepak Malhotra, Negotiating the Impossible, Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2016.

Thomas Schelling, The Strategy of Conflict, Ch. 2, “An Essay on Bargaining,” Oxford University Press, 1960.

Chris Voss and Tahi Raz, Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It, Harper-Collins, 2016.

Next Module: Brinksmanship [25 min.]

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